I just want to 'IT'

Here's a fact; I am about to be 28 in two weeks and I have never had earth shattering, mind blowing sex. The kind where your toes curl and your screaming at the top of your lungs, praying that it will never end but positive that you will die from it. I want to be touched in a way I have never been touched, have hands on my body that's sole purpose is to bring me to the brink of orgasm and then back down, I want feel a lovers mouth explore every square inch of my body. I want to have a touch of the darkside mixed in the with pleasure, be it with the sting of a firm hand to my ass or the sharp pain of having my hair pulled. I just want to find fullfillment in sex. I know its out there but for some reason it eludes me.